Sorry, “hangover” was the only analogy that seemed to work!
I’d love to know your thoughts on this situation.
We’re still in the “finding our feet” phase of the non-monogamy journey. My husband doesn’t feel the urge to look for extra relationships, but I’m quite enjoying mine. He is very happy for me and we’ve had hundreds of conversations throughout the process to ensure we’re both still ok with everything.
My question is…how much heartache should my husband have to deal with? When I’m feeling insecure in a new relationship, or it has to end. If I become emotional or withdrawn because of it, all I want to do is discuss it and find comfort from him.
Just like a hangover, it’s self inflicted. Like a hangover, it feels shit. And like a hangover I feel guilty expecting any sympathy. I feel as though I shouldn’t be spilling my guts every time there’s a bump in the road, we have our own emotional discussions to have regarding our own relationship.
The recent scenario is that my boyfriend of several months made a flippant comment that upset me. He wasn’t being malicious, it was just something my husband would be more careful about because we know each other inside out. It just triggered something and put me in a funk for a few days. Is that something my husband should have to comfort me about? Of course he doesn’t like seeing me upset, but is there a line? Where should my expectations lie? Kind of makes me feel like I shouldn’t be putting me in these situations.
Just another question that has come up on this new adventure.